Leonard Nimoy, also known as Spock and known to be very logical and his special Vulkan Spock greeting shares his experience and wisdom talking about most simple but profound questions like
“Who am I supposed to be and what am I supposed to do with the rest of my life?”
“How to find the right job?”
… with is 2012 Colleage of Fine Arts Convocation Address:
“I am a walkling, talking bundle of gratitude.”
He starts sharing how he found his path.
But what can we learn from Spock? Nimoy states following for both: Spock and himself in his path and at that time current situation starting Star Trek carrer:
“How to find your way as the alien in a foreign culture?
Where does your identity, your dignity come from, and how do you make a contribution?”
Before he reminds us that we are creators of our own lifes he continues reflecting on artists lifes …
“Respect your body. It’s a vital part of the creative process.”
“Our creativity walks on the razor’s edge using both sides of the brain.
The left side gives us logic and discipline. On the right side, is instinctive, creative thinking.
We, as artists, need both.
Fall to the left side and we lose inspiration and originality.
Fall too far to the right and we are in danger of drifting into undisciplined chaos.
The secret of a long, healthy carreer in the arts is the successful walk on the razor’s edge.”
“I shall give you hunger and pain and sleepless nights.
Also beauty and satisfaction known to a few
and glimpses of the heavenly life.
None of these shall you have continually, and of their coming and going, you shall not be foretold.”
Edwin Booth (actor) on the artist’s life – hearing the wisper of the god of all arts
… ending his speach with good old Spock greeting “Live long and prosper.”
And finally remember:
“There is always room for one more good one!”
live long and prosper!
Whether believe it or not – free spirits are the most loyal friends you can have – once you established a real friendship with one of them.
Facebook, Twitter, Skpye – and your friendships and connections
May be it’s a cultural thing, but I see relationships and friendships of people damaged and getting flatened every day through social media. OK, social media and tools we have availabe are a good way to stay in touch for people you know IF you nuture your friendships and connections in other ways as well. Unfortunately for most people facebook IS the (only) way they keep contact. Of course – it offers the option to have tons of connections going, but I would never call this “friendship” if it is based on that only.
I actually had some connections which became shallow because the other side kept communication on facebook only. Similiar it can happen on skype – although in another way:
Most people are not aware how much miscommunication can be caused via electronic media like skype and the same time they don’t make effort to keep personal contact – at least on the phone. Just on skype or even texting on the phone you only see and write words, which run through our all filters and are easily misinterpreted. I am really wondering that so many people don’t realize that. Just a few weeks ago I stopped a communication via skype with a person I actually liked, but it didn’t make sense any more – we misunderstood, she didn’t want to have telephone conversations and I had never met her.
We are just not made for virtual connection. We have virtual communication via Facebook, Skype, Mobile Texting etc. as we have it now for about 15 years now, while for thousands of years a huge part of our communication was based on smell and facial expression and whether you believe it or not – this is still so.
What is a “real” Free Spirit Friendship?
Of course everyone will have their very own definition and limits on what a friendship is – whether you want to call it free spirit friendship or just deep or “old fashioned” friendship.
For me friendship is a very personal connection which can have very different foundations varying from heart to heart connection to business partnership. Once we just notice that we have a lot in common, we like each other somehow and are willing to share and support. To nurture and grow this both keep personal contact, come up with hints for each other, care for one another in a certain way. This kind of relationship can even work if those friends don’t see, meet or have contact for days, weeks or even months, because they have a totally different basis than shallow facebook connections.
How to be friend with or keep a free spirit friend
It needs personal 1:1 connections, meeting in real life to build a basis for real friendship. Anything “just virtual” I would never call “real friendship”. Futhermore
- be clear, what is a certain connection for you. Does it have a meaning or is it just kind of (“lsose” ) contact (and there is nothing wrong with (“loose) contacts”);
- be interested in what others do and how they feel;
- give hints and support as you can;
- nurture the relationship – in any way you can imagine and you find appropriate in current situation, also depending on kind of contact.
It’s actually not difficult to be a good friend and even a good free spirit friend, but it needs a certain attitude most people seem to have lost in these days …
live long and prosper!